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Kids and Small Dogs
by Small Dog Rescue
Small dogs - 15 lbs and up -
can be fine with kids as long as their personality is suitable with kids
and the children are taught to treat the animal with respect. But it is
Small Dog Rescue's policy not to place TINY dogs (under 15 lbs)
with children. We catch a lot of flack for this from parents who want tiny
dogs. The kids may come in contact with a friend or relative's small dog
on a part time basis and everything goes fine. On a full time basis, the
dog might be miserable. You must remember that we are playing the odds
here. We don't know each of the applicants personally. Sure there are parents
that could make it work, but for the most part it is a better match for
kids to have a dog 15 lbs or over.
Before you send us an email,
we know that there are exceptions, but we don't have time to come over
to your home and spend enough time to ascertain this, when there are ample
adult-only homes to adopt and love these dogs. Don't forget, WE
TAKE THE GIVE-UP CALLS EVERY DAY. WE HAVE TAKEN IN HUNDREDS OF TINY DOGS
TO OUR PROGRAM DUE TO THEIR NOT WORKING OUT WITH KIDS - WE LISTEN TO THE
FRUSTRATED AND SAD MOMS WHO FEEL THEY HAVE NO CHOICE DUE TO THE KIDS TORMENTING
THE DOG OR THE DOG BITING THE KIDS OR THREATENING THEIR FRIENDS.
Why take the chance of displacing this dog from what he knows and finding
another home for him later when we know it is risky?
We have made a list here of
some of our reasons. We ask that you consider the following when
choosing a dog. Perhaps these growing years for your children are a time
when you should compromise, getting a dog a few more pounds than you want.
We feel it will be a good choice for all concerned. Then when the kids
are older, get a tiny dog and enjoy. After all, the dog is for the whole
family and the kids need a dog that wants to engage and play with them,
rather than one that will only seek your company.
1.
OVERSTIMULATION.
Always remember that a dog
perceives a child as another dog. That means that when that child starts
to irritate him with relentless efforts to have contact when the dog wants
to be left alone, the dog will react as he would if another dog were bothering
him. He'll try to ignore or walk away and when the child keeps pursuing
he'll finally snap and then eventually bite. If you watch a litter of pups
they often bite each other to communicate "leave me alone" or simply because
they feel grouchy. They would never treat you this way. However, a child
is only another dog to them. It's their langauge - it's all they have to
communicate when all else fails. It's usually a little scratch or bite
- it would mean nothing to another dog, but a lot to a child. If the dog
you are interested in is the type to bite another dog then he will bite
your child if he feels it is necessary.
Tiny dogs tend to be high
strung and kids set a tone in the household that is NOT calming to them,
thus sometimes bringing out the worst in their personalities. Kids like
to run, scream, play, tumble and so forth. These things tend to make a
small dog nervous and sometimes snappy. Or he may play rough the first
year or two and then as he matures want only to be held - then he may not
like the company of the kids. The dog may become so nervous that he may
bite or just be hyper vigilant and barky or he may take to hiding under
the bed or in his crate. Also, he may love and hate the kids alternately
according to their behavior. He may not bite YOUR kids but become so nervous
that he will bite their friends. Then who pays for this mistake? HE DOES!
He may lose his home and go to rescue if he's lucky and to the pound or
killed if not so lucky. All too frequently parents and the vet will decide
it's all his fault and not realize that the home was causing him too much
stimulation. Countless times we have taken small dogs into the program
who were extremely overstimulated. These dogs tend to want attention and
then back up when you reach for them. They may show wild uncontrolled behavior
or barking or may just be very distrusting and avoid touch. The reason
is often because kids handled them roughly or worked them into a lather
and then confused them with inappropriate yelling or hitting to control
them.
2.
CARRYING.
Another problem with kids
and tiny dogs is that they are small enough for the kids to carry around.
Tiny dogs usually love being carried by adults/hate being carried by younger
kids. They sense danger in the way they are handled by the child - they
know instinctively that they may be dropped or hurt by the unsteady way
a child carries them. Often when they see the child coming they equate
it with a loss of their freedom and being handled against their will -
perhaps in an uncomfortable manner. We all know how kids want to control
the behavior of something smaller than them. Toddlers cannot discern the
difference between a dog and a toy. They are not old enough to say to themselves
"It wouldn't feel very good to be toted around in such an uncomfortable
position, so I won't do it to my dog." All too often, the parent thinks
it's adorable while the dog is losing patience and wanting Mom to save
him from this torment. These small dogs will almost always try to be with
the adults and avoid the kids. They may eventually growl when the kids
approach and want to haul them around again. A dog with more weight will
not be easy for the kids to carry around so much and he won't be so intimidated
by them. 15 lbs or more = more respect because the child cannot easily
carry him around. We look for a dog for families that is going to enjoy
everybody and not be afraid or uncomfortable in his own home. The family
dog should eagerly approach the kids (a tiny dog may do it temporarily,
then hide from the kids). The family dog should be willing to play as long
as the kids play. He should not be snappy with their friends. You shouldn't
have to put him away when kids come over - and you may indeed have to do
that with a very small dog.
3. TOOTHPICK
BONES.
Even though your kids may
love their dog, the tiny dog is at risk with kids. All kids tend to play
carelessly sometimes. We have had toy poodles who have had to undergo painful
broken bones and surgery to fix them. Not to mention the expense to you.
You cannot watch the kids all the time. There are many cases where kids
rocked a chair back on him or closed a lazy boy chair on him or simply
tumbled on him in play. Why risk it?
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